I Lived!

I did not die on the operating table.

I also did not have chlorhexadine used on me.

I DID, however, have an allergic reaction to – I’m assuming – the antibiotics they put me on before the surgery because I had a UTI. I was a little bit itchy on my arms before the surgery, but afterwards it was a full-blown rash down my sides that became a traveling nightmare of itch. So unfortunately, I was not spared the itching this time either. But it was not at the negligence of the hospital crew! Progress!

They attempted to do the surgery laparoscopically, but couldn’t manage it for whatever reason. So they wound up having to do open surgery. I now sport two puncture marks and a 3 inch incision. The healing has gone okay, I’m having some minor issues with the bumper on the outside of the two digging into my skin because I may be too fat for the tube that they used. I’m waiting on the doctor to call me back to discuss that further. The pain was not as bad as I honestly expected. I haven’t had to take the opioids nearly as often as I would have figured. Tylenol and Advil have been taking care of it just fine, usually. It’s typically not so much painful as uncomfortable – like a bloated sort of “I’ve had too much to eat” kind of feeling rather than a specific sharp” I’ve had surgery” pain.

My nightmare scenario of being unable to get out of bed to use the toilet never materialized. By the time I needed to do the thing, I was able to shift myself. I’m pretty much back to where I was, except that twisting to reach things is harder. Or currently impossible. I’m sleeping with the AVAPS machine on my bed instead of in its little cubby because I cannot reach over to turn it on and off. Scootching myself in and out of bed is far more laborious at the moment, but it is not impossible. Just time consuming.

The tube is just a future proofing for now, I’m not using it at all. Every day though, we need to flush it with water to keep it happy. It is a very strange sensation to have suddenly drunk 60 ML’s of water without having swallowed it. Hopefully I don’t need to actually use the tube for quite some time. I am having no troubles chewing and swallowing, the only trouble I have eating at the moment is physically getting the food into my mouth, because my hands suck. Otherwise everything is grand.

Hopefully this is the last surgery I have to have, unless I decide to install a ventilator. Hopefully that’s some distance down the road. For now I have two tubes sticking out of my torso, and I am now a series of tubes. Like the Internet. It’s one more concession to the disease, but I’m not really having any big feelings about it. I had big feelings about the idea when it was first presented to me, and I had some big feelings when the actual surgery was scheduled. The first time. But now I think it’s been such an ordeal I’m just glad to have it done. Now I just need to have it heal and it will be another part of me and that’s all there is to that.

I could have done without the itching though.

Third Time’s a Charm

So two things. One, I did not die on the operating table. Two, that is the longest I have ever gone without posting. I apologize for that.

Actually, three things. I have not yet had the surgery. And oh boy is it a tale of woe and drama!

We arrived at the hospital and were wheeled back to what would be my room for my overnight stay. I got into my little dressing gown and took out my facial piercing and sat around for a long time waiting for them to come get me. Actually no, I’m misremembering. I didn’t wait very long at all for them to come get me for this one. I went back pretty quickly. They put me under, and I woke up.

Thank God right?

And then they were telling me about how they hadn’t been able to perform the actual surgery.  Something about how my anatomy was wrong, how my stomach was tucked up under my ribs and they couldn’t actually get to it. My diaphragm had atrophied to the point where it was pushed up and my stomach was hiding under there and they couldn’t get to it the simple way. We were going to have to try again, with radiology.

That sucked.

What also sucked is finding out that they had used a skin prep for the surgery that I am allergic to. It’s called chlorhexidine and it’s very common in surgery. And because it’s very common in surgery, I make a very specific point to tell them that I am allergic to it beforehand. I kind of make a fuss about telling them that I am allergic to it. Because it’s in everything. When I woke up my stomach was covered in a brown mark, which I thought was iodine, which they should have used, so I figured I was in the clear, but two days later I was covered in a very very itchy rash, which lasted for 2 weeks. Weeks. I spent those two weeks in a Benadryl haze, covered in itchy medicine. Bastards.

The new surgery was scheduled for January 4th. Same as before, a small puncture wound to fit the tube into, minimally invasive, super quick healing, the only difference being that they were going to use radiology to guide them instead of the camera. Unlike the previous surgery, this was only scheduled as a day surgery. Again, traded in my civilian clothing and took out my piercings and made a huge fuss about the fact that I am allergic to chlorhexidine do not use it. For fuck’s sake. Jay joined me in on this refrain with the nurse. It is very very sucky to have an allergic reaction and be unable to scratch because your hands don’t work, and you also cannot apply lotion because your hands don’t work. So you have to wait for your best friend to get home from work so he can help you apply itchy cream because your hands don’t work. And also you lose two weeks of your life because your brain’s in a fog because of the medication. I was wheeled into the room finally and asked to scoot on to the operating table which I had to break it to them that I am completely unable to help them do that, so they hauled me over and I helped them as best as I could. They then asked me to lay down, and I had to reiterate what I had told to the nurse before, that I am unable to lay flat. They indicated that they had a wedge pillow for me, which set me at about a 15° angle, which was not nearly enough. I was actually kind of panicking about this. They sensed that, and put me on pure oxygen and the anesthesiologist started the calming medication. I was able to lie down and think about nothing but my breathing and force myself to pull air in and push it out and then I was asleep.

And then I was awake. And they were telling me that they were not able to perform the surgery. Because my anatomy was wrong. Because my stomach was tucked up under my ribs.
Pretty much the exact same thing I had been told before. I’m not entirely sure what the radiology was supposed to do for them and why it didn’t work but the practical upshot is once again I had been put under and nothing had come of it. So they sent me home.

And the next day I broke out into a very itchy rash because once again they had used chlorhexidine on me.

There are not enough swear words in the world.

So, the only option after that was surgical. Instead of going down my throat into my stomach, they have to go through my abdominal wall straight. It’s a bigger deal surgery, and they have to knock me completely out, and it’s a bigger risk of course. A longer heal time. We couldn’t schedule the surgery for a long time, because COVID took up all of the hospital beds and they put a hold on all elective procedures. We are going to try to do it. Laparoscopically, using a tiny incision and a tiny camera. Failing that, she will have to make a slightly larger incision to put the tube in, but she’s very confident that we can do this and it will be still minimally invasive. To be honest, I will be happy if they can do this without using chlorhexidine on me. My surgery is scheduled for April 4th.

I have to say I’m pretty freaked out about this one. The surgeon still thinks it’s a day surgery and I’ll be able to go home that same day, and I hope she’s right. We’ve booked me an overnight stay just in case, and will send me home if we’re able. She went over all of the risks to the procedure, of which of course one of them being not being able to get off of the ventilator and having to spend a day in the ICU until I can breathe on my own. A person in my ALS support group had this surgery and his vital lung capacity dropped 30% afterwards. He went in with 70% and came out 40%. I’m sitting at about 35%. I am terrified about coming out of the surgery and not being able to get off of the breathing machine and having to decide if I want a vent or not because at this point I think I would want to vent but we haven’t planned or budgeted or even seeing if we can afford a nurse to be here basically 24/7 to monitor the ventilator if I have to be on one. I’m afraid of going in for surgery and coming out on a ventilator being unable to eat, drink or talk ever again. I’ve been through this twice now and I’ve suffered no problems from the anesthesia but I haven’t been put under completely with breathing support and I’m worried about them stopping my breathing and me being unable to start it on my own again. Which is you know the reason we’re doing this now instead of when I actually need the feeding tube to get this out of the way. Basically: one guy I know has a horror story and it’s got me rattled. I shouldn’t be so freaked out. I know better. It’s probably going to be just fine. There’s just some worried little part of me that is having a field day with what-ifs.

Surgery is one week from today.

They sent me a cleaning kit for my body, two bottles of cleaning solution to be used the night before and the morning of surgery. To make sure that I am clean as a whistle before they go cutting on me. The cleaning solution is… 2% chlorhexidine. The surgeon herself had provided me with written instructions and verbal instructions and she had not mentioned sending me any kit; rather, just to wash up with a kind of soap called hibiclens.

Which it turns out is also a solution of chlorhexidine.

Luckily I called her up today and she told me I could use dial soap instead and it would be just fine. If I were to actually use the soap that they recommended, we would not be performing the surgery because I would be a red itchy mess. I had given some thought semi-seriously to having Jay write on my body: DO NOT USE CHLORHEXIDINE.

So anyway that’s what’s happening. The surgery hasn’t happened yet. We’ve had two false starts, 3rd and hopefully final attempt next week. If you’re the praying sort, pray for me. Hopefully I come out of this with an additional hole in my body and it having been the last surgery I have to go through.

Hopefully they don’t use any fucking chlorhexidine.

Fed Up


It’s finally happening. I’m getting a feeding tube placed. My surgery is slated for November 24th, the day before Thanksgiving. 


I don’t NEED it yet, not even remotely. My ability to swallow has not been hindered by my disease at all. I’m still able to eat perfectly. My breathing, however, is becoming enough of an issue that this surgery needs to move forward. Any time you go under anesthesia, there’s risks. But with my breathing numbers being what they are, the risk is far greater for me, and they are getting worse the lower my lung capacity gets. We need to get ahead of the surgery before it becomes completely impossible to perform. That’s why we’re doing this now.


Just because I’m getting it now doesn’t mean I have to use it. I’ll still be able to eat normally. Some basic maintenance will have to be performed daily, just flushing the tube with water and maybe changing some gauze daily. Eventually when eating becomes a chore, I can eat what I feel like eating and then just use the tube to supplement the nutrition I’m not getting because it’s too burdensome to eat. And then of course when I’m not able to eat at all, it will be my main source of calories. But I feel like that’s a long way off. My arms are going to quit before my jaws do. I’m going to have to have someone spoon feed me, before I have to use the feeding tube, but I think I’m going to be eating for a long time still. The installation of the feeding tube is literally just because I won’t be able to survive the anesthesia with my breathing being what it is for much longer.


We had the consultation last Friday, to answer any questions that I might have and to go over what the procedure is and nail down any details. I didn’t have a lot of questions, because I am a compulsive researcher and had already looked up a lot of it. I was told they were going to keep me overnight – THAT was a surprise. All of my research had indicated that this was a simple outpatient surgery. But no, my clinic typically keeps patients overnight for observation, so this will be my very first overnight stay in a hospital! I’m not sure how I feel about that, some combination of nervous about the procedure as a whole plus annoyed about not being allowed to sleep in my own bed plus excited for a new experience. I know damn well I’m not going to be able to actually sleep that night; no one ever sleeps in a hospital. I was kind of hoping to come home after the surgery and climb into my own bed while I was still kind of doped up on painkillers.


I’m not nervous about the surgery itself at all. It’s a super basic surgery, very little can go wrong, and the recovery rates are very quick. People in my support group have said that it’s not difficult at all except for the first day. The main thing I’m worried about is being able to transfer in and out of bed with a stomach wound. I basically have to use my arms and drag myself across the bed to get in and out to use the bathroom, and it’s a HUGE effort. If I’m absolutely unable to do so though, we have a Hoyer lift, and we’ve practiced using it. We’re not exactly smooth practiced professionals with it, but I think we can get the job done. I’m also incredibly pain tolerant, so the concern isn’t really that it’s going to hurt too badly to move, more that I will be physically unable to do so. I guess we will see how that goes.


The clinic called to make the appointment on Monday, and the first appointment they had was for Wednesday November 24th, the day before Thanksgiving. The date actually worked out very well for a lot of reasons, primarily because Jay has that week off work. He takes so much time off of work to take care of me I really didn’t want him to have to take more days off on my behalf. We don’t really celebrate Thanksgiving because it’s a colonizer holiday, but we do like to eat so we typically just overeat and call it good. We won’t be able to do that on Thanksgiving this year because I’ll be waking up in the hospital with a gut wound, but we can make up for that at any time really. We will have a make up Thanksgiving dinner. Maybe even two. No one can stop me. MWUAHAHAHA


I’ve been sitting with the idea that a feeding tube was coming for over a year now, and the idea gained more solidity earlier this year when my pulmonologist basically said no. Really. You’re going to have to do this and soon. The clinic before last, I made up my mind to bring it up the next time I spoke to him, and next Clinic I was ready to make the appointment, but then my pulmonologist retired and I had a new one who wasn’t quite as gung-ho about it. I thought about it and contacted him after Clinic was over though, and asked him to set it up anyway. I’d like this over with. While I still have my contributions to my out-of-pocket maximum paid, before all that refreshes, and just so I can be done with it. I’m not in a hurry to get it done, not at all, but it’s this big deal that’s been hanging over my head for months and months.


This post is going to serve as my announcement to my friends that I’m getting this surgery the week after next. I purposely allowed myself a week to sit with the knowledge that I had the appointment and everything was said and I was ready to go. I wanted to let feelings settle in, before I was ready to answer questions and ready to talk about it. I’m doing surprisingly okay. I kind of figured it would be a much bigger deal? And maybe it will be once the surgery is done. I know I will be a bundle of nerves the actual day of surgery of course. But the significance of this surgery has not devastated me like I kind of expected it might. This is kind of it. From here, the next surgery is going to be the installation of a ventilator if I decide to have that. And I don’t think I will, at the moment, but that’s a problem for future me to work out. But this is the next big big step, the next big concession to my disease. I’m getting a feeding tube placed because I’m not going to be able to eat food like a normal human being. I’m going to have to eat blended food and give up one of the things that I enjoy very most in life. I love to eat. The main thing I’ve missed during this whole pandemic is eating in restaurants. And while getting the surgery right now doesn’t mean I HAVE to use the feeding tube, it’s an indicator that I’m GOING to, someday. Unless of course, my breathing is so shitty that it kills me first, which isn’t exactly a happier thought.


For now though, I’m handling it just fine. I’m a little nervous about the surgery itself, because I’m always nervous about surgeries, because there’s always a risk associated anytime you go under. But that’s not a big Cosmic worry, that’s just common sense worry. I’ve had ample time to mentally prepare for this. I have plans in place. We have prepared for the worst case scenario of me not being able to transfer in and out of bed. I’m doing okay. This is going to be just fine.


I can’t wait to share all the gross details with you once I’ve had it done.